Seven Traits of Effective Parenting Plus One

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Good parents aren’t perfect. And that’s okay. There’s no formula to follow, but there are ways you can grow every day. Focus on the Family’s Seven Traits of Effective Parenting article gives you a large parenting trampoline to jump from!  There are thoughts and ideas on seven things you can bring into your home to improve your parenting game.  Check it out here:

I find this article to be encouraging, but find a huge effective trait that the author does not mention:  PRAYER.  Paul says in 1 Thessalonians 5, “Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”   As a firm believer in prayer, I know when my prayer life is active and fervent—there is peace in my home, even when there isn’t.  The peace is in my heart, even when my kids aren’t at peace with each other or with me.  The prayers give me strength to keep on believing in God’s power in my families’ lives, even when I don’t feel like I’m seeing much of a difference in my kids or myself. There is peace about our future, even when tomorrow is uncertain.

The Holy Spirit is prompting me to pray often when my family is in turmoil and when it is rolling along just fine. When I want to throw up my hands, toss my kids into their bedrooms and cancel everybody’s plans for the day—I pray. When I feel like a friendship is in question, I pray.  When I don’t know how to spend our time or money, I pray.  It doesn’t always end up exactly how I want and prayer certainly isn’t an aspirin for a parenting headache.  But continual, thoughtful, solitary and family prayer is one of the most effective parenting tools we have. 

So, please read the article and practice the traits of love, respect, intentionality, boundaries and limits, gratitude, grace and forgiveness, and adaptability.  Just don’t forget to cover them all in prayer.